Banyak kes dimana orang melayu memusuhi musuhnya menggunakan kaedah dengki-mendengki dan ugut mengugut.
Ada juga kes dimana apabila seseorang melayu memusuhi melayu, dia akan mengarahkan ahli keluarganya supaya membenci ahli keluarga musuhnya itu.
Ini realiti.
Akan tetapi, Jed telah menulis tentang wujudnya Cina yang kuat mendengki sambil menggambarkan orang melayu kurang mendengki.
This handful of anti-Jed Yoong cybertroopers hate me ‘cos my family was rich. And because my family benefited from Barisan. Of cos, this people just see one side of the story. Without Barisan contracts, there won’t be jobs, with no jobs, people will be poor, complain and probably join parties like the DAP. These Chinese are the worst. They are so dengki, just ‘cos they weren’t good enough to get the contracts. They think those who did are all corrupt. And what does PAkatan do when they are in power?
Even when I wrote the most vile things about UMNO or PAS, I never receive such horrible comments on my blog, via email, chat, etc. I wonder why they bother, just to vent? I guess that’s a bit like me. But the hatred is unbelievable.
Agak menghairankan.
Adakah dengki mendengki hanya sesuai untuk sesama kaum masing-masing?
Adakah etnik India juga dengki mendengki sesama sendiri berbanding kaum lain?
Adakah budaya mendengki yang dikongsi semua kaum menjadi satu simbol integrasi kaum?
Untuk persoalan Jed, mengapa dia kurang dihentam oleh UMNO dan PAS, mungkin kerana kurangnya pengunjung Melayu yang membaca blog Jed. Sekiranya ada ramai pengunjung Melayu, pengunjung itu ialah jenis yang minda terbuka, kalau tidak masakan mereka datang membaca penulisan Jed yang hentam kiri-kanan.
Saya tidak nafikan cukup ramai pembaca Melayu yang sukakan "cerita-indah", orang PAS baca Harakah/Tranungkite blog PAS, orang UMNO baca Utusan dan blog UMNO.
Jika Jed ingin mengetahui betapa dengkinya Melayu sesama melayu, cuda daftar Tranungkite/MYKMU menggunakan nama gelaran seperti melayu, hantar artikel dalam BM.
Hello Saudara Hasbullah,
BalasPadamAt one time I tot this dengki was only a sikap Melayu. But it's not, and just exposed my racialistic thinking.
Cina can be very dengki also. And some have adopted the attitude of putting down ppl just to make themselves look good, or as you mentioned "go to war" with their "musuh".
I know Malays can be very dengki also as I've read other blogs. So maybe you are right as since my blog has less Malay readers, I dun really know.
But the difference in the dengkiness between Malay and Chinese, is the Chinese is aggressively dengki while sometimes the Malays, the dengki just stops at badmouthing, etc. Am I right?
But you are right, dengki is probably a human condition.
Also with time, Malaysians have taken on other people's culture.
Additionally, I was trying to highlight some of the reasons behind DAP's supposed perjuangan for Malaysian Malaysia which may be just be from dengki, aggressive dengki. And how DAP's/PAS's "cronies" propaganda has caused dendam even towards a section of Chinese who are just trying to make a living as contractors. Not everyone is corrupt and not everyone is a billionaire and millionaire.
Good and bad, everywhere, everyone the same, regardless of race + religion. So I can't really differentiate between Pakatan and Barisan anymore...
But I do feel that religion helps build a better society. Rather than the pursuit of money, people should pursue God, for that's why they were created.
tuan,
BalasPadamits really not fair to relate dengki to races or to a particular race like melayu.
dengki's in every beings, depends only the way it's controlled by the master.
people usually dengki to someone they know. it is quite gila to dengki to somebody that we dont even know who the heck are they...
anyway, it's quite acceptable to relate dengki to melayu, but not to Mukmin. sadly in Malaysia, malay means muslim...
this PhD (Perasaan Hasad Dengki) ... sebenarnya ada kat semua kaum (bangsa) tapi biasanya dia akan dengki sesama bangsa (kaum)..
BalasPadamSebagai contoh... kalau orang tue "terra" santau... ilmu santau dier cuma boleh bantai sesama bangsa dier jer.. kat bangsa lain tak efek..
Contoh... kalau la ader yang "terra" pasai santau... sure George Bush Sr dan George Bush Jr dah lama kena santau.... hahahaha...
lawak-lawak...
dengki tue sifat semulajadi semua manusia, dan tiada kena ngena ngan kaum...hoho
BalasPadamhati manusia semua lain-lain.
BalasPadamtiada semestinya sebangsa maka akan wujud perasaan yang sama.perasaan iri hati dan dengki sama taraf dengan penyakit - tidak mengenal rupa,jantina,agama,budaya dan kedudukan.sesiapa saja boleh ada "penyakit" itu jika tidak dikawal perasaan "penyakit" itu.
tipu lah jika saya katakan jika saya tak pernah iri hati pada orang lain.tapi jadikan perasaan iri hati itu sebagai sesuatu yang positif untuk kita meperbaiki diri.kita harus ada sifat "dengki" tapi "dengki yang positif".kita majukan diri kita dan cuba bersaing dengan orang lain secara sihat.bukannya dengki melulu,menjatuhkan orang lain tanpa kita sendiri berusaha untuk menjadi manusia yang lebih baik.
and to Jed-Yoong,just move on with your life.there's nothing to be of where and what you are right now.certainly we must accept the fact that there are haters and a##holes eveywhere.
salam.
BalasPadamsesiapa saja bole ada PHD(perasaan hasad dengki).tak kisah melayu atau cina.PHD jika tak dikawal boleh mengakibatkan kes kehilangan nyawa la.contoh macam kes santau.
nassis,
BalasPadam".kita majukan diri kita dan cuba bersaing dengan orang lain secara sihat.bukannya dengki melulu,menjatuhkan orang lain tanpa kita sendiri berusaha untuk menjadi manusia yang lebih baik."
this is aggressive dengki....dengki as used by the Chinese....it's productive dengki....but usually comes with "menjatuh-ing" orang lain but via the strange way of being better themselves rather than directly menjatuh-ing.
Malay dengki...very limited in use...
the canto expression is "em dai dak", dunno know the translation...but it does not describe envy or mere jealousy....dengki is the closest that i can find...only it's usually aggressive dengki...
BalasPadambut pls educate me if there are more facets to malay dengki...
Jed:
BalasPadamDalam islam ada istilah "Ghibtah"
google it.
Cina lebih kuat sikap 'kiasu'/'follow the Joneses' daripada dengki sesama bangsa. Inipun secara am/generalisasi.
BalasPadamKalau jiran sebangsa beli kereta baru, seorang Cina akan cuba beli juga, walaupun masih membayar ansuran bagi kereta lama. Takut hilang muka.
SAlam bro Sebol..
BalasPadamTeringat pula hadith waktu belajar sekolah dulu:
"Tidak ada hasad (iri) yang dibenarkan kecuali terhadap dua orang, yaitu terhadap orang yang Allah berikan harta, ia menghabiskannya dalam kebaikan dan terhadap orang yang Allah berikan ilmu, ia memutuskan dengan ilmu itu dan mengajarkannya kepada orang lain"
Kena di"rejuv" sket hasad nie bro, zaman dah berubah dunia dah maju...hehehe, hasad untuk kebaikan dunai akhirat.
Bro,
BalasPadamDah google...
It's not Ghitbah...and it's not the "keeping up with Jones" but the dengki that motivates the person to overperform...
Aggressive dengki.... ;) Kee Kee...
Salam! Ha Ha Ha.
i think the best word is simply HASAD dengki.
BalasPadamthat says it all. if they didn't want to jatuhkan org lain, it would be call jealous.
everyone has this jealous feeling but it will transform to hasad dengki when you're jealous PLUS you do something to jatuhkan that person or anything bad things to them.